A HUSBAND’S sage advice to married couples has gone viral online.
Ryan Stephens is the talk of Twitter after posting a series of tweets he believes offer the secret to marital success.
“My wife and I have found that focusing more on being teammates and less on being soulmates is a solid recipe for marital success,” he wrote.
“Here's quick thread on the 6 rules we try to follow to be a good teammate to each other in our marriage.”
My wife and I have found that focusing more on being teammates and less on being soulmates is a solid recipe for marital success.
Here's quick thread on the 6 rules we try to follow to be a good teammate to each other in our marriage.
👇👇👇— Ryan Stephens | Getting Dialed In 📈 (@ryanstephens) March 6, 2019
Here are the secrets to marital bliss:
1. No one should ever hear anything bad about your spouse from you.
It's one thing to joke with friends about something trivial and quite another to demean your spouse's character.
Know the difference and always discuss the latter with your spouse and no one else.
1.) No one should ever hear anything bad about your spouse from you.
It's one thing to joke with friends about something trivial and quite another to demean your spouse's character.
Know the difference and always discuss the latter with your spouse and no one else.— Ryan Stephens | Getting Dialed In 📈 (@ryanstephens) March 6, 2019
2. Over communicate.
You cannot read each other’s minds.
Never assume the other person knows what you meant.
Give each other the benefit of the doubt when miscommunications happen.
Double check if necessary.
2.) Over communicate.
You cannot read each other’s minds.
Never assume the other person knows what you meant.
Give each other the benefit of the doubt when miscommunications happen.
Double check if necessary.— Ryan Stephens | Getting Dialed In 📈 (@ryanstephens) March 6, 2019
3. Try new things together.
Even if one of you is typically more adventurous than the other, have fun with it.
Trying new things gets an individual out of their comfort zone and is often easier as a couple, allowing you both to grow stronger together.
3.) Try new things together.
Even if one of you is typically more adventurous than the other, have fun with it.
Trying new things gets an individual out of their comfort zone and is often easier as a couple, allowing you both to grow stronger together.— Ryan Stephens | Getting Dialed In 📈 (@ryanstephens) March 6, 2019
4. Be each other’s champion. Celebrate wins and encourage each other.
Bring home champagne after a promotion at work, back each other up when engaging in that battle with your heathen toddler, work out together, etc.
Never cut the other person down when they're struggling.
4.) Be each other’s champion. Celebrate wins and encourage each other.
Bring home champagne after a promotion at work, back each other up when engaging in that battle with your heathen toddler, work out together, etc.
Never cut the other person down when they're struggling.— Ryan Stephens | Getting Dialed In 📈 (@ryanstephens) March 6, 2019
5. Be grateful for each other’s contributions.
Whether it be money, time, chores, childcare, or anything else, no one contribution is greater than another.
And don’t keep score.
If you truly value each other’s input, then the scorecard shouldn’t (and doesn’t) matter.
5.) Be grateful for each other’s contributions.
Whether it be money, time, chores, childcare, or anything else, no one contribution is greater than another.
And don’t keep score.
If you truly value each other’s input, then the scorecard shouldn’t (and doesn’t) matter.— Ryan Stephens | Getting Dialed In 📈 (@ryanstephens) March 6, 2019
6. Trust and respect each other.
Especially in front of others, including your children.
If you do not respect your spouse in front of other people, why should those people respect your spouse?
Enough said.
6. Trust and respect each other.
Especially in front of others, including your children.
If you do not respect your spouse in front of other people, why should those people respect your spouse?
Enough said.— Ryan Stephens | Getting Dialed In 📈 (@ryanstephens) March 6, 2019
The tweet thread has been retweeted 12,000 times and liked a further 42,000 times
“Marriage, or any long-term relationship, is not *all* about love & romance,” he concluded.
“It’s about working at it day in and day out.”
